Love pain

Pain caused by love, does it exist ?

Although it may be a topic of passionate discussion, you'll mostly agree with me that YES. It's sort of psychological pain but it also may yield physical problems, like lack of appetite, insomnia, depression, etc. In any case, it is popularly known as the "worst and most harmful pain" !

Let me tell you an extract of the story of a friend of mine, which is now deeply suffering this pain. Sometime ago, he met an extraordinary girl, with a blinding smile. Soon after their first meeting, they started a cute relationship. It was not just another relation to include in their lists, but they both thought that it could be an important, perhaps definitely one. Despite their similarities, they had some problems since they both wanted to impose the way the other had to be. After this, my dear friend had some doubts facing the intolerance of his girlfriend. However, he rapidly understood the sadness of his girlfriend at this situation, and he self-convinced that he had to fight if he wanted to construct something in his life. If my friend had stopped their relation at this stage, his girlfriend had likely suffered most of the pain. But soon after they concluded that they loved each other and that they had to join forces to make it work.

After some time, my friend became the problem and they reached their first big crisis. However, after some talk he engaged himself to change and make to his wonderful girl the happiest person in the world. From that moment, everything seemed to work very well. My friend gave for his first time his heart to a girl. In spite of all his previous relationships, he hadn't do it before, likely because his not easy way of life. From that moment, my dear friend started intensively to find the way to get closer to her (they were separated by many km as it happen with modern relations), the way they could see each other very often. What is more important, he started to plan his life in order to design a future which soon would bring them together, not in no matter which way, but with stimulating lives and jobs. And the day came when my friend, after all his amazing efforts, managed to be appointed for that new incredible job which would bring both of them happy and very close. Everything promised a wonderful future.

Nevertheless, the storm arrived the same day he was appointed for a new job. At night, when they used to speak, she planned to leave him. Unexpectedly, my friend experienced in the interval of 8 hours the terrific feeling from being the happiest person in the world to the saddest person over the earth ground. He confessed that the pain he felt is like that produced by the sharp blade of a knife.

Even though the conclusion for them might be that they are very similar, that they pursue kind of similar objectives in life, that they were looking for the same relation and even as a couple, they looked a pretty nice (even admitted by their respective friends), some obscure inspiration contaminated her suddenly. What a few weeks ago it wasn't even a tiny obstacle for her, now it became a big wall, what she was dreaming a few weeks before for him and their lives, now became a big problem for her... During this last stage, the pain sharpened, as coincidentally he discovered that a third person was involved...

My friend still thinks that this girl is probably unique, he admires her for her talent, for her way of being, for her intelligence, for her smile. However, hypothetically this girl clearly showed an important lack of maturity, she just gave up conditioned by the combination of her own soul and the third party. At her frustration for this failure, she hypothetically takes shelter at this new guy, making the pain even worse for him. Disappointment and wounded is as he feels.

My friend has now lost his smile, he is not the same, he suffers in silence and he feels the pain inside him like a person that has brutally being tabbed. So yes, the answer is yes, when I look at my friend and feel what he is going through, all the pain he is feeling under all these circumstances, then I'm sure he feels a distressing pain.

But I know my friend, he is really strong, he has a remarkable force to recover from all kind of situations, he has a beautiful smile too, he is enthusiastic and active and he'll go forward. My friend, I'm sure that, with the help of your friends (included myself), I'm sure you will overcome this terrible pain you feel. The destiny wanted them to continue being alive, and the same whimsical destiny might join them once again. And my friend, don't worry, live calm, you are a worthy person, she perhaps doesn't deserve you, not yet, but if she does, once she will come back to fix that coin of your heart that she has broken in so many pieces and that so much pain is producing you. Breath, chill out, be yourself and smile...

Now my friend,
good night,
sleep well,
and don't let the bugs bite you.

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